Mental compatibility is crucial for a relationship to flourish. However, certain kinds of behaviour by lovers may see them drifting away psychologically. This may even lead to a failure in love. As such behaviour is most often unintentional, a little bit of care can not only save a relationship but also strengthen it.
A brief look at these behaviours:
A love affair has several stages. After the initial attraction, it takes some time to develop mental compatibility, trust and mutual dependence. So it is better not to reveal everything to the partner during the first stage of the relationship itself. Issues like problems in the family, personal handicaps and old love affairs are best left alone during this phase. Honesty and transparency are essential for a relationship but extreme frankness can come much later.
Curiosity about old flame
It is natural that a lover would be interested in knowing about the partner’s old affairs. So, questions about the matter would crop up during conversations. Some people raise such queries repeatedly. However, this may make the partner uneasy. Some couples discuss this issue during the initial phase of their courtship itself, leading to a break-up.
The solution is as follows: Simply listen if the partner speaks about old relationships. If curiosity cannot be controlled, ask a single question; whether the partner had a love affair earlier. In case the partner is willing to discuss the matter, he or she will explain everything.
Nobody can read others’ mind
Speaking about one’s demands is an important part of a relationship. There may be some people who understand the partner’s needs and act accordingly. However, this does not imply that they can read the partner’s mind. Hence, never accuse the partner of not fulfilling one’s desires.
By coming clear on matters, unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts can be avoided. Face to face communication is one of the mainstays of a healthy relationship.
Lack of individuality
Personality is decided by opinion and the stand one takes on various issues. Even a love affair that starts with physical attraction can be sustained only with one’s individuality. Nobody can love a person for long if he or she lacks individual opinions and preferences.
When asked about their opinion, if the partner replies, “I don’t know; do as you wish,” it may seem insincere and lead to problems.
In case the partner is wrong, explain the matters to him or her. This would not only help the partner but also make the person understand you better.
Jealousy and selfishness
All relationships have traces of jealousy and selfishness. However, when they exceed certain levels, the love affair may collapse.
Contacting the partner by phone always and insisting that he/she be with you as per your wish are certainly not healthy tendencies. Most people would only try to escape from such a partner.