Many men complain that their wives are short tempered, often getting irritated or annoyed very easily even for trivial matters. Their family members are usually at the receiving end of their uncontrollable anger outbursts which could mar the relationships. For instance, the mother would soon get irritated when she realizes that her children do not pay heed to her. She may lose her control and shouts at the children, and would even hit them. People who get so angry would vent their anger at anyone who happens to be around at that point of time.
Psychologists say that these extreme anger outbursts have got nothing to do with a person’s educational qualifications. Some people, when they get really angry, would break things or react in the most extreme manner. They usually seem not to realize the intensity of their actions or the effect of it on others. It may even negatively affect inter – personal relationships or family relations. Short tempered people may tend to over react to irrelevant or unimportant matters as well.
Experts say that one’s emotional responses to an instance or incident may depend upon his/her mood at the time, temperament and thoughts. They need not necessarily react in the way others expect them to. If the children do not listen to her, the mother thinks that she is a total failure as a parent, which irritates her even more. The thought that her partner gives more importance to his friends make her insecure, which leads her to behave in an unusual or rude manner. Psychotherapists say that the reasons behind these anger outbursts should be analyzed in detail to prescribe appropriate therapies or medication.
Cognitive therapy is suggested for those who get provoked because of inferiority complex. This would help them to realize their condition and rectify themselves. If these extreme mood swings are caused by depression, then medication would help them to relax. Therapists say that a treatment regimen which involves psycho therapy and medication would be effective if it is an impulsive outburst or reaction arising out of temporary dissatisfaction over something.
Various relaxation techniques, meditation and therapies to control anger would also be helpful. It is also important for the person to foresee the instances which are likely to provoke them, realize when they begin to get irritable and try to express their anger slowly than they used to (by the time, the intensity of your anger will mellow down). It would also help to get away from the situations which may make you angry. One can even try channelizing the anger to other activities or long time goals.
It is said that while children cry to express their unhappiness or dissatisfaction, adults may react curtly or angrily. The partners of those who have a short tempered nature should try to understand them with an open mind and realize the real reasons behind the outbursts. Medical treatment could be sought if necessary.